A lot of women feel that they are parents to their partners too, since they have lot on their plate. They have to be teachers, nurses, maids, chauffeurs and even event organizers.
It’s Not Always the Kids…It’s the Husbands!
As much as motherhood is challenging for women, their husbands add even more stress on them. According to a survey done by “Today”, of around 7000 mothers, the average stress level in women varies between 8.5 out of 10, and even 46 % of women say it’s their husband’s fault they are stressed.
The researchers summarized the following:
- Moms stress out because they don’t have enough time to do everything which was planned
- 1 in 5 moms explain they don’t receive enough help from their partner
- 3 in 4 moms say their partners don’t help with the parenting and household chores
Additionally, researchers from the University of Padova explain that this situation worsens the health of the husbands once their wives die, while women become healthier and can deal with stress much easier once their husbands die.
Why is This Happening?
There are several reasons why this is happening and one point of view explains that moms expect to be supported by their husbands when they take care of the family. So, helping your kids with homework and going to doctors’ appointments would be of great help to busy moms.
How to fix this: talk to your partners about it and make a list of all the tasks which need to be done. Try to make a shared calendar, so you don’t forget important things and chores.
Women need to step down and trust their partners more and give them more chores and responsibilities and stop worrying that they won’t do them well. Usually, women have great expectations about how their family should be and sometimes it seems easier to them to finish things on their own instead of giving the task to another person.
Make Your Relationship Better!
Often times, parenthood affects the relationship greatly and it’s sometimes difficult for parents to separate and put their relationship aside. However, you should never forget that you are not only parents, but partners as well, so putting some effort in your love life will only make things better for you in the long run.